Doing Nude Photo Shoots Boosts Confidence

Many people really are shallow assholes. I was made fun of for not having big boobs when I was still a child, and when the consistent verbal attacks made me nervous about my looks, people behaved like predators excited to devour a wounded animal. 

But, when I armed up with ferocious confidence and a few style tricks, their jaws dropped, and they were in awe. 

A less bitter way to look at it, is that it is all about projection. When you project nervousness or shame about your looks, people will be repelled. When you project unwavering confidence, people will be attracted to that.

 Confidence really is key, and it has to come from within. 

Since my confidence has developed to a more healthy level, people have asked me questions I never thought I would hear. “Your nose is so perfect. Is it fake?” A girl I was dancing with at a New Years party once asked.

“Woah, are those boobs real?!” My current husband’s friend asked him when he “accidentally” saw a nude pic of me on his phone. People, I am only an A to B cup. Of course they are real, and they aren’t big. He must have thought they looked big because of my experience working my best angles, my knowledge of how to use shadow and light, and because of my confidence that I project for the camera. 

I still get made fun of every once and awhile, but it doesn’t bother me, because all I have to do is remember all the fantastic nude photos I have done over the years, and I feel confident. 

The last time I was made fun of for my small chest was a few years ago when I went to visit my sister after she begged me to come over.

As soon as I arrived, a young woman immediately began to whine to me in a sad tone, “Awwwww, you’re sooooo pretttyyyyy.” I pretended not to notice how upset she was acting, took it as a compliment and said, “thank you, you are, too,” before going down the hall to the bathroom. As soon as I shut the bathroom door, I heard my sister’s insult, 

“Yeah, she’s pretty, but she’s flat!” 

Her friends immediately bolted down the hallway, stomping, tripping, and laughing obnoxiously until they were at the bathroom door waiting for my exit. So, I opened the door to find 2 grown ass women blocking my way out of the hallway. They were laughing hysterically while demanding, “lift your shirt!”

This wasn’t one of those types of things where all the girls take turns flashing each other at a party. This was meant to be intimidating and demeaning. These were grown women behaving like middle school bullies.

Sensing danger, I began silently planning a defense strategy for possible physical assault. I do everything I can to avoid a fight, but I will defend myself. As much as I enjoy being naked for an audience I DO NOT comply with commands to do so. 

With strong eye contact and confident body language, I very calmly said, “I used to do a lot of nude modeling, and I have nothing to be ashamed of, but I do not consent to this.” Their demeanor instantly changed. They stopped laughing, apologized, and slithered off to cause drama elsewhere. 

And, drama they did cause… One of those girls ended up violently assaulting someone later that night. 

I never hung out with my sister again after that and probably never will, since she is always surrounded by people like that, and wouldn’t even admit to making fun of me until years later. Also, her apology was not only late but extremely sarcastic and dismissive.

One important key to building confidence is to stop spending time with people who seek to destroy it. In my case that meant dump the asshole, divorce the douche, and disown the sister. 

Like my life coach says, “You can’t get dry under a waterfall.”